Do you recognize that? You have some spare time and would like to spend it usefully? This is possible, for example, by becoming a buddy in the municipality of Etten-Leur. Because as a buddy you can mean so much to someone else! Volunteer Nathalie became Jeanne's buddy a year and a half ago. But they have the idea that they have known each other for much longer. Together they talk about how they experience their contact.

“I was in the doldrums. I had been a caregiver and suddenly I didn't have to,” Jeanne says. “I took care of my ex-husband for a long, long time. When he passed away, I suddenly had oceans of time. I took in Snoetje and Bolleke, the cats, and started taking care of them. It felt like I had to, but it was also good because it got me moving again. Especially the cuddling with the cats, the social part, helped me. When I realized that, I contacted the family doctor. He referred me to Surplus.”

Working together
Nathalie: “I was already working as a volunteer at Surplus. They asked me if I wanted to become a buddy. I was interested in that. I like the one-on-one contact. I like really looking together at what is needed to put someone ‘back in life’. Trying out activities together, what makes you happy, what do you really like to do? I also notice that it gives me energy when she takes steps. She's doing better, but I'm also happier and more positive in life. It is also just so important just to be with someone!”

Moving again
In between, Jeanne shows a newspaper article asking for drivers. She says she is interested. “Sounds good. Nice, Jeanne, that you keep an eye on those job openings,” Nathalie responds. “So nice to see how you got yourself moving again. I admire your spirit. So much will, so much positive energy.” Jeanne: “I surprise myself when I suddenly realize that I take initiative myself. I have become more active. And when Nathalie comes by, I make sure in advance that everything is tidy. That's part of the job. Every Sunday I have a clean-up day. I don't really feel like it, but in the end it relieves. That's done and Monday is a good start to the week. I'm sure you'd like another cup of coffee?” After a ‘Sure, delicious!’, Nathalie says: “We also do exercises together, like writing down which characteristics belong to you.” Jeanne: “Yes, I was positively surprised! Oh, that's me!” I suddenly thought. I can do much more than I sometimes think. I put that exercise next to my pillow."

First outing
Nathalie: “We actually undertake quite a lot, don't we Jeanne. Besides those assignments, we often go out. One time we tried the Floralia Garden.” Jeanne: “That was our first outing.” Nathalie: “The other time we go hiking or we look up if there are any volunteer work vacancies that you like.”

Never too old to change
Jeanne: “I have already done a lot in my life. And fortunately I still have my family and other contacts. But I don't see them every day. I have a fixed routine. I go every morning to get the newspaper and chat with the people I meet on the way. You always meet someone who wants to have a chat.” Nathalie: “Jeanne shows me what is still possible. Even though you are older and have been through a lot, she is still powerful, vital and resilient.” To Jeanne: “Also, you show me that you are never too old to change your life, to choose for yourself.”

Become a buddy too?
Or learn a little more about what it entails? An afternoon or evening a week can mean so much! Petra de Kramer, buddy aid consultant, can tell you all about it. She can be reached at petra.dekramer@surplus.nl or call 0162 - 74 86 00.